Relationships: How to Create Rock-Solid Love – That Just Keeps Getting Better!
Know wherever you find yourself; it’s not an accident that you are there. We all are creating it all, all of the time-our love life is no exception. And wherever you want to be regarding love, you can create it. The very best relationship you can imagine can be yours, once you become conscious in your creations. Here are some magical tips to skyrocket your love life, no matter where you find yourself on the “Love-O-Meter”: YOU HAVE A RELATIONSHIP BUT IT COULD BE BETTER. So many find themselves in this place-you have a partner but you’re not as happy in the partnership as you’d once dreamed. What to do? Do this:
Own your power. People in ongoing partnerships find it easy to fall into the “blame game”. “So and so does thus and such… aren’t they awful?” “Don’t you feel sorry for me… ” and “What can I do when I have a partner like mine?”
Well, the truth is, you are creating your partner. I know, he or she is creating it too-it’s a paradox-both are true. But in order to change your relationship you must approach it as if you are the only one creating it.
Get your mad out. Ask yourself if you have any old, unresolved issues with your partner. If so, write them a letter expressing your hurt, anger, etc. When you are done with the letter, burn it.
In order to move into a positive future, you need to let go of the past. For good. Obviously if you need to talk with your partner about these issues, do so… but nine times out of ten the issues have been talked to death already. Time to let them go.
Get clear about what you want. I know you say you want a loving, ai porn video giving, caring and intimate partnership. But I’ve seen plenty of couples that really want to argue. Plenty of others that only want to be right. Still others who want to control their mate.
Be brutally honest with yourself and let go of any hidden agendas. Get clear on your relationship intentions and write them down.
Change those pesky beliefs. Those who follow my work are probably saying, “Oh no, not again-when’s she gonna get off the belief nagging?” Sorry folks. Never. Beliefs are the crux of why everything is the way it is in your life.
Ask yourself if you have any of these beliefs-if so change them to the corresponding positive belief:
I don’t have the ability to create a loving relationship with my partner.
I do have the ability to create a loving relationship with my partner.
It is not safe to allow my partner to support me.
It is safe to allow my partner to support me.
I can never let my guard down within my relationship.
I can relax and receive sustenance within my relationship.
If things go too smoothly in my relationship I get nervous and create a problem.
If things go too smoothly in my relationship I feel happy and create even more ease.
Relationships are difficult.
Relationships are easy.
Relationships take incredible amounts of energy.
Relationships give incredible amounts of energy.
I am always angry in my loving relationship.
I trust the love in my loving relationship.
My relationship is never “good enough”.
My relationship is always “good and getting better”.
I give more than I receive in relationship.
I both give and receive in relationship.
I am powerless in relationship.
I am powerful in relationship.
Imagine what you do want. Our reality is a result of what we think, what we feel and what we believe. Nothing on the outside will change until you change what happens inside. Begin imagining how you want to feel about your loving partnership.
Caution: Do not, repeat, do not imagine what your partner will do or say. Do not get into details. Let the universe handle the details. If you decide, “If he or she loved me they would do/say/act this way… ” you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
Instead, imagine how you will feel when you have the relationship you desire. Perhaps those feelings include… feeling loved, grateful, loving, cared for, respected, playful, safe, intimate, tender, vulnerable, appreciated, secure and joyous. Practice feeling that way as you think about your relationship. Imagine your relationship fills you with those feelings now.
Forget the bad, focus on the good, and leave “perfectionism” out of it. What you give attention to expands. Practice ignoring what you dislike and think and speak about only what you like. (Obviously I am talking about the little things here-not major issues, which should not be ignored.)
I talked with a woman once who was fuming that her husband was so selfish that he made only his half of the bed each morning, leaving her half unmade. I counseled her to experiment with ignoring that behavior, and instead focusing on and being grateful for anything good she could possibly think of about her husband.
It didn’t take long for his selfish behavior to turn to loving behavior. This woman was shocked, but pleased, that a simple shift in her thinking could make such a big difference in her marriage.
Your reality is what you create it being, and your loving partnership is no exception. Stop the blame game and start creating the love you love. When’s a better day to begin? There is help for you, just as there was for a friend of mine
However, if you have had relationships (but none that last) like a friend of mine that I will refer to as, Alone and Lonely; there is help for both of you. I suspect that many in this boat feel like my friend who wrote a letter to me asking for help.